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Women with an ‘upper-limit’ problem
October 19, 2015, 1:15 pm

Many women have an inner setting that determines how much love, success and creativity they allow themselves to enjoy. When they exceed this setting, they often do something to sabotage themselves, so they drop back into the old familiar place where they feel secure.

Put simply, your self-esteem has placed a cap on how far you will be able to go in life. If your ambitions grow faster than your beliefs evolve, you will keep hitting the so called ‘Upper Limit.’ The good news is that the Upper Limit will move up as long as your beliefs move up to accommodate our success. There is no quick fix to changing long-held beliefs, but you can get better with practice.

First, make a list of your core beliefs about yourself.  Now work to build your self-esteem from within. True self-worth does not come from external circumstances, such as others’ approval or praise. Here are a few more ways to build self-esteem:

Live consciously: That means paying attention to your actions and choices; every action you take should have meaning to you. You cannot feel competent and worthy while conducting your life in a mental fog. The choices you make give you a sense of the kind of person you are. The sum of these creates the experience of self-esteem. Also, continually learn and improve yourself, your knowledge and your skills. This builds confidence.

Recognize and override the upper limit signals:  If fear, negativity or anxiety creep in when things are going well, do not shrink back to your comfort zone. Feel the fear or anxiety, and keep moving. Work on internalizing your new beliefs and go full-steam ahead toward your potential. Again, like mastering anything — a musical instrument or a sport, this takes practice. But the ROI (return on investment) is huge.

Expand your capacity for good things and good feelings: The most important thing you can do is teach yourself to allow the good feelings in your life. Allow money and good health and joy to flow to you. It is safe and okay to be happy and healthy and prosperous every day. 

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