It is completely natural that your 10 year old wants to rush into all the things he or she sees older siblings and kids on TV doing. But just because a particular practice is the ‘norm’ these days that does not make it a good choice. Here are a few things that you may have to restrict your children from doing, for their own good.
Having unrestricted internet access: With Internet everywhere and despite the benefits it has on education and social interaction, giving your child unrestricted, unmonitored access to the online world is asking for trouble.
Drinking diet drinks: Research suggests that artificially-sweetened beverages are addicting, and may actually increase food cravings and contributes to weight gain. Of even greater concern is that there has been almost no research on the effects of these sweeteners on the still-developing bodies and brains of children.
Sitting for hours on end: While some sitting time is necessary (mostly at school), their time outside of school should be spent in moderate-intensity activities like helping to prepare meals or household chores, or in higher-intensity activities like outdoor play or sports.
Watching PG-13 and R-rated entertainment: Tweens are heavily influenced by television and movie characters they deem “cool.” Movies and television rated for older audiences will feed your child a steady diet of sex, drug and alcohol use, and violence — before they have enough life experience to even put those images in proper context.
Even if your tween is watching sitcoms and other tween shows whose characters are disrespectful to adults, or use sarcasm and insults to get laughs, you can expect the same from your child.
Video games with violence: Social researchers and medical professionals have cautioned about violence in the media and its negative effect on children. They categorically state that exposure to violence through video games and other media can elevate aggressive feelings and thoughts in children, and that these effects can be long-term.
Using social media or texting: Your child wants a social media account to peer into the lives of others, especially older kids they think are cool. The problem is that these older kids aren’t always a good example. Also, your child is not mature enough at this age to be responsible for his or her own posts. The same goes for text messaging. Kids seem to say things on these platforms that they would never say in person, and that’s not a good thing. Tweens who spend time engaged in social media are at greater risk for bullying, humiliation, and sexual experimentation.