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Spending time on yourself
February 2, 2014, 2:03 pm

A better marriage, a healthier life and a happier family is possible if you take time to do what you really want to do and spend time on yourself.  Here is what you should work into your schedule for a more positive outlook.

Time with Female Friends: It’s ironic, and kind of a shame, that our closest, oldest, dearest friends are the easiest to put aside when we are busy. But, making time for your female friends is essential for your well-being. Girl pals also keep you from relying completely on your spouse for support and a social outlet. Plan some girl time at least once a month.

One-on-One Time with your Kids:  Are you spending quality one-on-one time with your kids as individuals? When you spend quality one-on-one time with your kids, even for a short stretch of time, you end up with a closer bond. You help them feel respected and valued for who they are, which in turn will help them form healthy relationships as adults.

Alone Time: If you cannot remember the last time you spend some quality time on yourself, you are missing out on the proven restorative benefits of just letting your mind rest, ruminate and wander. When you don’t have dedicated, regular time to yourself that is not about meeting someone else’s needs, you never get a chance to tap into your own needs. Spending time alone is like defragmenting your computer, clearing out all the mental junk so you can hear what’s going on in your own head.

Indulge your creative side:  Being creative and pursuing your own interests boosts your happiness, and when you’re happier, you’re a much better mother, wife, friend and worker. First, identify something you would like to do, then look for idle pockets of time (like when you watch a TV show you don’t really love just because it’s on) and dedicate the time to the creative activity instead.

Learn something new:  You should never be done with learning.  The motto, ‘If you don’t use it, you lose it’ applies to your brain as much as to your muscles. When you stimulate your brain by learning a new skill, your overall cognitive abilities improve. Luckily, finding a way to learn something new isn’t that difficult.

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