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Not always bad to compare yourself to others
July 25, 2017, 4:33 pm

Comparing yourself to others can be a slippery slope — it might make you feel sad, defeated, or envious, especially when scrolling through social media feeds that make it seem like everyone has a perfect life. While learning how to quit the comparison game is important when it comes to being and doing your best, there are a few instances when stacking yourself up against others can actually be useful for your own growth. Not convinced? Read on for five reasons why paying close attention to others can be totally transformative.

It can show you what’s possible:  If you feel stuck in your life, and someone else is doing something you wish you could do, making an admiration-based comparison can be a good way to motivate yourself to take action. When you see someone is taking an initiative to improve their health, advance their career, or put themselves out there to find love, you might find new ideas about what you are capable of too.

You should never get down on yourself though — especially when you’re stuck, as that’s when comparing can take a dangerous turn. Keep yourself safe by taking action. Simply looking at what others are doing and beating yourself up over what you aren’t doing isn’t helpful; it will only lead to low self-esteem and negativity. Come up with an action plan or reach out to others for help and support in order to move successfully toward your newfound goals.

It can fire you up: Caring enough to be kind of competitive isn’t always a bad thing: In fact, feeling a little fired up might be just what you need to finally break free from a job you hate or pursue something new you have been afraid to try. Whether you start a friendly competition with a coworker or challenge your friend to a healthy get fit-style challenge, you can use someone else’s progress as ammunition to keep yourself pushing for your own.

It can inspire you:  Comparison can be a healthy thing when you try to shift your energy from jealousy and coveting someone else’s situation to giving the other person a mental high five and treating it as evidence you are gathering of what’s possible for you. The two fundamental components of the shift are moving from jealousy to celebration and switching from a worldview of scarcity to abundance. Abundance calls for teaching yourself to think, ‘There’s more than enough, and what she has is available to me as well.’

It can make you feel more grateful:  Some people might appear to have it better than you do, but comparing yourselves to others can also serve as a super-powerful reminder that you have tons of amazing things happening too. Whether you are noting someone else’s health struggles, bad career luck, or recent breakup, you will surely feel thankful for what’s going right in your life.


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